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Wait....why did they get on her case if she was in the Pregnancy AND TTC chat? I mean TTC only I get, but if its for both, who cares? I can understand having bad days and being sick of being reminded that you arent pregnant, but, uhhh, if youre having a sensitive day (or life) then, dont go to a chat where you know there will be pregnant women that are likely seeking advice, or just a vent, about their pregnancy.
Didn't you get the memo? The world revolves around her and her problems, now. It was in all the papers!
Seriously, though, she was in the TTC & Pregnancy chat room, so I guess that people should be prepared to listen to her complain about her situation. The one that got me though was the girl tonight on the TTC OT board that didn't like that her dh volunteered at the fire department because she was a SAHM and she needed a break from her kids. She was considerate enough to mention in the title that the post mentioned her dc, but when I clicked on it (stupid, I know), I thought she would just be mentioning a child in passing. I didn't realize that she would be saying she needed a break from her kids on a TTC OT board. Silly me! I know, I know. I'm overly sensitive and I need to go find some big girl panties.
Tims_diva - I saw that post last night, I couldn't even respond. No matter what I would have said, it would have come off...bitter ;) I did however vote that SHE was being selfish and at the time I was the only person that thought so, lol.
As for the blogger's post...eehh, doesn't bother me. Probably not the best place to vent about pregnancy, and I can only imagine how she was told so. Now she won't post things like that...lesson learned I guess. As for being mean?!? Fangs only come out when needed, lol.
Yikes! I posted a thread on OT yesterday where the immediate issue dealt with my LO but the larger picture was about how we're treated in general and how to deal with it. I asked first, posted it, then requested it be moved because I really didn't want to offend anyone. The thing is, I spend most of my FF time on OT. The ladies there crack me up and I know they will give me a straight answer, even if I don't like it. Since I don't post on the moms side often, I knew it would die quickly and it has, though I have gotten some good responses. Thank you!
I've never been in the chat areas to see how they work. Are there individual topics and combined areas? I wasn't there so this is JMO based in one snippet of text, I would say it seems like she doesn't understand it since she expected compassion from everyone for her pain but lacks empathy and understanding for the TTCers' pain and having to listen to her complain about pains they wish to have.
Here is my issue- yes, everyone who has been pregnant can tell you that there are times that it absolutely sucks. You are pukey, you hurt in places that you never thought existed before, and you feel as though your body isn't your own anymore. HOWEVER- You DON'T complain about that to people who would LOVE to be in that position if it meant that they would have a child.
Yes, I get the fact that it was the TTC and Pregnant Friends chat and if you are TTC and having a bad day it may not be the best place to hang out. However, if you are pregnant, for the love of god don't complain about it to people who are TTC. You just end up coming off as an ass even if you haven't intended to.
I think, and again this is an opinion that the poster didn't mean to come off as it sounded as being selfish.( The one about the firefighter) I think she is just lonely. I can tell you, that if my husband was a firefighter and then volunteered on top of that and was gone alot I would complain too. We both chose to have children and we both should be involved in their daily activities because it's a family. Family comes first, and even though she has chosen to be a SAHM doesn't mean she is not in need of time for herself and time with her dh without worrying about him flying out the door in a minutes notice.
I voted I didn't think either was being selfish. I can see both sides.
JS -
Per your most recent email, Yes, yes, and yes. You are correct.
Tims-Diva...I saw that post too, and I saw it before she added the *DC mentioned* part (either that, or I didnt see it) and I was quite annoyed when I read it and the first few posts, but just ignored it.
When I saw the "DC mentioned" on it, I felt a bit perturbed, because, even though she might not have intended it, the main issue became her children.
And, Drama, please point me in the right direction if I should be posting this somewhere else as I am new to this site, but does anyone else have trouble signing in? Everytime I try to post it tells me my password is wrong, when it absolutely is not, and I have to go through, reset the password, and change it to something else. Just to have the same thing happen again.
Does anyone else have this trouble?
FFD--Thanks :)
Ani -
I've had several problems over the last few days getting / publishing comments - maybe they are somehow related?
Also the pages load slow.
I realized that my comments came across a little harsh and I just wanted to apologize and clarify that I'm sure the gal with the volunteer FF dh has very real needs and frustrations. I also believe that the pregnant lady was complaining about the leg cramps, not the pregnancy. My issue with the volunteer FF's wife is not that she posted those frustrations, my issue is WHERE she posted it. The fact that she put "child mentioned" on the title tells me that she knew there was some sensitivity on that board, and yet she chose that board to vent her frustrations. Next time I want to complain about all the pressures & demands of my successful business, I'm going to see if I can find a SAHM group that she belongs to. As for the pg chick with leg cramps, the TTCers were stupid to be on that chat board if they couldn't deal with pregnancies. That's why I seek out the TTC OT board. I thought that was the one place on the entire planet that I could go to avoid hearing about the problems that children bring. Guess that was idealistic. (eye roll)
The one that really fries my chaps, though, is the TTC#4 chick who posted on the Obama/Clinton thread that she can't afford $100 a month for the 3 kids she has to have health insurance because that would take food off their table, but then on the splurge thread she posts a picture of her new $300 tattoo.
Sorry ladies, I just got a BFN this morning after $30,000 worth of fertility treatments and I'm not in a good place. Fortunately, I'm getting a $10,000 shared risk refund, but that's still a HUGE chunk of money down the drain.
Where are these posts? I can't find 'em.
Tim's Diva-
I wish we had emotionicons here, I would send you a hug. *HUGS*
I must of missed the thread about the tattoo, that would tick me off too. I would love to have alot of things, but with a one income family you have to sacrifice and if I couldn't pay my health insurance I sure wouldn't be getting a tattoo!
I gave up trying to understand people a long time ago....
Mrs. Jar, Thanks for the hug. Thanks to all of you for your support.
I also want to clarify that I didn't see Flyingmonkey's thread at all. I doubt that I would have been offended by it because, knowing Monkeys, I can't imagine that she was complaining about her little ones. I truly don't mind if people mention their little ones. I work with kids in a ministry and dh is a Cub Scout Den leader. We love kids! I just have a hard time dealing with people complaining about their kids, but I wouldn't report anyone.
I know I need to stop judging $300 tattoo choices and I'm really working hard on that in general, but last night, I cut myself a break.
Sassafras, The comment where she says that she can't afford $100 a month for health insurance for her 3 kids because it would take food off of their table is the 3rd post down on the 13th page of the "Clinton/Obama" thread on OT from March 5th. The picture of her new $300 tattoo is the bottom of the first page of the OT thread titled "I have a $125 pillow."
Ok, I've had a good night sleep now and I'm choosing to get over it and not let myself continue judging her. Thanks for your patience!
ani....if I'm not signed in I go through the same thing each time also. Bugs the piss out of me.
Tim's Diva--sending you (((hugs))) too. So very sorry to learn of your BFN :( That truly, truly sucks :(
Hey, bitch away :) Better out than in. And better here than FF :)
Drama, Im so sorry to hijack again.
Judy, I figured it out (and I feel like a moron, so dont laugh at me, folks...well, not too much)!!
I thought the username part when you sign in wanted your username (silly me), so Ive been typing in "ani".
Apparently it wants your email address, not username. I put in my email and viola! it let me in.
I am sorry Tims_Diva.
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