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What a bunch of crap. Nothing like pawning off your debt and already thinking about racking (no pun intended) up another one for something like cosmetic surgery.
Yeah, I'd like new boobs too. But there are too many more important things the money could be used for. Sucks to be responsible.
Well, let's not forget the Vera Bradley Diaper Bags (mentioned on OT) as well. Seriously??
Must be nice to live off of those of us who work, Andrea.
I understand that life happens and people need help sometimes. I think all of us have been there at one time or another, whether it as emotional or financial support.
I would question the priorities of someone who is planning for a boob job while in the process of filing for bankruptcy. It would be one thing if the surgery was to alleviate some ailment being caused by the size of the breasts, but if it's just for aesthetic reasons I think that it just shows a lack of self control. What good is getting a pass on your bills to bring your head above water when you are planning an expensive elective surgery? How is that solving the financial issues?Is it a sign that a lesson wasn't learned?
It's not just about boobs. People go out and buy houses and cars when they are planning to file and after they file. There are lots of wants I have but our needs come first. I have bills from a long ago time that we are paying on now but that I would love to have disappear but they are my bills and I need to pay them, even if it means I didn't get my Harley at 35 and maybe not at 40 either.
There's no such thing as a free lunch. Some how it will get paid for, whether it's by prices going up, interest increasing, fee increases or stricter limitations and penalties. The money will be paid.
I wonder how many boob jobs, cars and houses have been paid for by he sweat off mine and my DH's back? I didn't even get a joy ride, or sleep over, or to see if they felt real or not. That stinks!
I'm so glad I'm not the only who noticed her lack of priorities. I don't believe I saw the post about the boob job but I did see the one about the Vera Bradley bag. She's actually posted about buying other Vera Bradley bags as well, and those posts caught my attention knowing that she'd filed bankruptcy and it seems she also posted at times about money still being tight.
Hate to say it but having a 3rd kid sure won't help that. I'd love a 3rd myself (if my body ever even allows it) but I know better at this point in our lives.
While I don't agree AT ALL with what she is doing, is it possible that she's got a plan? Maybe she looks at this as a new beginning? And has a plan in place for being more financially responsible?
Im in no way defending her, but just trying to walk a day in her shoes.
I HIGHLY doubt that someone who has bought an expensive diaper bag and already planned the "when" of her future boob job, all while filing bankruptcy, has any sort of plan for future finances.
Planning for finances does not mean that you continue racking up debt until the bankruptcy is complete. I know that there are times when this is the only option, but you can bet your ass that if I am ever in the bankruptcy line, I will be using a wal-mart diaper bag and I will be sporting my free, though not perfect, breasts.
I don't know what her boob problem is exactly as I don't have FF, but maybe she could try this. (Sorry if I am not allowed to post links. You can not allow this post or modify it if you wish.)
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,334168,00.html
Has anyone here filed bankruptcy before?
It's not just the end of all your debt. In most cases some of it must be repaid, you may lose your car or home, your credit is seriously tarnished.... It's not a decision one can make without serious consideration.
None of us know what her exact predicament is. I think it's extremely presumptuous for everyone to be chiming in and laying into her ONCE AGAIN. What the hell is everyone's problem?
Since I'm not on FF I have to go off of what Drama posts here, which I'm sure is biased in some way, but did she actually say "I'm getting new boobs immediately after I give birth to this child"? I doubt it. I don't think she's gonna sacrifice breastfeeding for a pair of new tits. None of you know exactly what her circumstances are, and none of you can see inside her brain and see what her plans are.
I might point out that what's important to one person could mean nothing to another. Ppl have different priorities and different reasons for wanting things.
Lay off her.
She said she is unhappy with their location (not so perky) and that she and DH "compromised" and she's getting them done for her 30th Bday in 4.5 years. She's currently pregnant with probably their last one, so BF should not be an issue.
As of early Feb, she was still talking to a lawyer about her filing and erasing nearly $100K of credit card debt. How they got there is somewhat understandable with a job loss, but the thing I think most people have a problem with is that she hasn't seemed to change her current behavior to show anything will be different after filing.
So, the filing isn't even done yet, and she's "compromising" and making plans to get her boobs done.
I'm not sure what the compromise was. Did her DH want her to have more done? Did she want to have more done? Did he want a young girlfriend with perky boobs and they compromised and are getting his wife perky boobs instead? No telling.
For the record, she also posted once about having a $350 stroller (one of SIX STROLLERS for 2 kids presently) and buttering up her DH to get another one that is probably another $100.
For some people $100 is chump change, but if you're in the middle of filing and already HAVE SIX STROLLERS, then there's a problem.
Chump change is right! We're the chumps giving them all our change so they can feed their desires.
I tried giving her the benefit of the doubt, but it seems every time I turn around, she posts something that is just so ridiculous that it makes me wonder where her head is. I really don't think she "gets it."
I am pretty sure there are some on here that have filed before, but as far as I know, they are coming from somewhere else. And not planning to put their family back in debt before the ink is even on the "get out of jail free card." And if the surgery is not going to get financed, then as far as I'm concerned, that excess money they have should go towards paying their current debt. Call me old fashioned, but that's how I feel about it.
I don't think planning elective cosmetic surgery while in the bankruptcy period is fiscally responsible. If it's not just cosmetic then that's different, but I don't know if it is.
Thank you Andrea, oh moral compass *eye roll*
I think if it was just one or two things that seemed a bit off, I would be able to let it go, or give the benefit of the doubt. But holy shit, it never seems to end. First there was her idea that if you have a vagina you shouldn't be president (I hope the child she is carrying is a boy- if it's a girl I'm wondering if she will be told "when you grow up you can be whatever you want to be- except president, only boys can be that"). Then there was the pee-cake debacle, which I admit totally skeeved me out....but is more odd/unsanitary than anything else. However, her talk about filing for bankruptcy juxtaposed with her talk about buying an uneccessarily expensive diaper bag, having 6 strollers and needing another, buying a new carseat b/c her kid puked on one, and now getting a boob job, just doesn't make sense. You wonder why they had to file in the first place- perhaps because they are living a bit above their means?
I'm with Lisa on this one- I don't care if someone wants to spend the money they earn on a ridiculously expensive diaper bag, a shitload of strollers, and some new titties- but if your ass is so far in debt that you have to possibly FILE FOR BANKRUPTCY, then perhaps some evaluation of spending priorities are in order. I don't think she needs a lawyer- she needs a financial counselor to help manage what funds they do have.
Who really cares what this woman does with her money after filing?
I don't.
I really dont know who you guys are talking about, but from what I gather I can say this:
I could be mistaken, but if she plans on financing an elective surgery and then file bankruptcy, she can be turned down for the bankruptcy and be stuck with all her debt and I think she could be charged with fraud.
There are many people that see bankruptcy as, as Lisa said, a get-out-of-jail-free-card, and they figure "Well, Im already in financial trouble, so I'll go out and buy everything I can and then I dont have to pay for it, or I will pay very little for it."
I know when my folks went through bankruptcy (it steamed from my dad having cancer and even with insurance couldnt afford the bills from the 8 surgeries and hospital stays) they had to talk with a lot of different agents and lawyers and had a ton of meetings and such before it went through. The government went through everything to make sure they werent trying to get something for nothing.
It is possible that this person has a real problem with self-control, kwim? Maybe she needs real help (the professional kind) to realize that you can't have everything you want.
I do not know of the boob job post but is this the same poster that did not have enough money to do a root canal and was having really bad problems with her teeth/tooth? I mean it was months she was going on about her teeth and how she needed money for them. IF it is the same person all I have to say is ummmmmm?
I am a friend of the person you are speaking of.
I can't believe how much you have manipulated her posts into the most false statements just for your own satisfaction.
I am not going to correct all of your false statements. I will set a few things strait. She did not get her and her husband into debt, her husband did, and this was before they met. She has stated this many times but you all refused to remember that. Funny how your remembered so many other details.
She is not filing, her husband is, and why he has to file is their business, Shit happens.
She also said they haven't used credit cards in years so everything they have purchased in the last few years has been with money her husband has earned at his job.
Her possible boob job that "might" happen in 5 years is not being financed. Not now, not then. It is just a thought, not something that is written in stone. Have you ever wanted something that you couldn't afford at the moment? We are talking 5 years from now. Its called a dream.
The compromise between her and her husband is about him not wanting her to have them done, because he loves her the way she is. But if she is still unhappy with her body by that particular time than he will support her and stand by her with whatever she decides, if they can afford it, that should go without saying.
Oh and her dental work is completely finished and paid for, with the money her husband earned at his job. No financing there either.
I am truly amazed at how cruel and hateful most of you are.
Jadis, you worry about her possible little girl, well I worry about yours. To grow up with a mother who is such a witch to someone she doesn't even know. Bullies breed bullies.
You are all equally guilty, and I pray you become better people for your children and future children's sake. You should really be ashamed of yourselves.
If it's her hubby that is filing, then that makes it perfectly fine!! I mean, why would it affect HER any since she is a bread winner too....Oh, wait...she's NOT!!! She's a stay at home spending his hard earned money that they are spending!
Well, I am off to teach my child how to bully and, hell, I have a mouse to kill too!! Damn thing shouldn't have intruded in my house. Hope the neighbor's isn't missing....or someone doesn't find a cute little picture on the internet to claim as their own!
I completely understand that bad things happen and sometimes it's out of your control.
But so my question is, why not take the extra money her husband is making and put it towards their debt instead of filing? How about paring down your lifestyle choices and try to avoid filing?
Obviously, just my thoughts.
She is not filing, her husband is, and why he has to file is their business, Shit happens.
Ummm.. we live in Florida... if her husband is filing, so is she. It's a joint thing here. I'm like 99% positive on this.
It's really annoying when I take the time to comment but they don't get posted.... I thought you said all comments would be getting posted. This isn't the first time, and you even tried to say you were posting all comments last time I called you out. Well when I make a comment and don't see it posted, I know for a fact you're not posting them all!
First of all, I DO post every comment. Whats your problem? Why such anger? It's not MY problem that YOU can't post correctly!
I think once I tried posting and must have typed the verification word wrong, so it kind of looked like I posted, but I had not. I had to do it again. The only reason I noticed what there was no message saying it was waiting for blog owner approval first.
Just a thought. If it can happen to me... ;)
axela said...
I am a friend of the person you are speaking of.
I can't believe how much you have manipulated her posts into the most false statements just for your own satisfaction.
What part is manipulated or false? Put me in my place. Please.
I am not going to correct all of your false statements. I will set a few things strait. She did not get her and her husband into debt, her husband did, and this was before they met. She has stated this many times but you all refused to remember that. Funny how your remembered so many other details.
She told me about half of it was from before they were married, so that means the other half was while they were married. They are both responsible for it, at that point. And I can say for myself, it isn’t so much that they want to file that is riling us up. It is what she says and does now that she apparently knows that is how they are going to precede. It’s like the bankruptcy is a huge elephant in the room that everyone but she can see.
She is not filing, her husband is, and why he has to file is their business, Shit happens.
As a married couple, are they both not going to have to sign the papers?
It is their business, but she has shared the details. It’s not like we go searching this stuff out on Google or something. It’s all over the boards and we trip over it all the time. It has been posted of her own free will and makes people across the nation cock their heads in curiosity first, and then in disbelief. Of course shit happens. But when someone can be so unbelievably irresponsible after reality hits, that is when she gets people talking. I know PLENTY of people on FF in particular, and elsewhere, that have filed or are filing. Yet somehow, they never come up in conversation here. And they certainly don’t come up over and over. That should tell you something.
She also said they haven't used credit cards in years so everything they have purchased in the last few years has been with money her husband has earned at his job.
She said it’s been 2 years. And I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that with the interest and late fees she has mentioned, plus the fact that they are filing, the cards have been shut down now and that’s why they are not being used. I will admit that I could very well be wrong about my thought that they have been cut off, as she did mention wondering why credit card companies make it so easy to get large amounts of credit when you have no business doing so. (Wow! "External locus of control," anybody?) Either way, the point is not whether or not they are using credit cards to buy frivolous items. The point is that they are buying them at all – period. If they have money for a Vera Bradley diaper bag, or a 7th stroller, or an elective boob job, then that money should go to the past due amounts owed on the credit cards, regardless of whether or not they are going to file now or later.
Her possible boob job that "might" happen in 5 years is not being financed. Not now, not then. It is just a thought, not something that is written in stone. Have you ever wanted something that you couldn't afford at the moment? We are talking 5 years from now. Its called a dream.
I think (and this is “JMO”) that she has spent enough time in dream land. It’s time to wake up and smell the past due notice. It’s the one right next to the gift certificate her DH gave her for the diaper bag. Oh, but that’s not really money she’s spending since it’s in the form of a gift certificate now. It “doesn’t count.”
The compromise between her and her husband is about him not wanting her to have them done, because he loves her the way she is. But if she is still unhappy with her body by that particular time than he will support her and stand by her with whatever she decides, if they can afford it, that should go without saying.
If they can afford it at that time, that’s great. But the way it was presented was that it was already decided.
Also, I could be wrong (once again, and feel free to correct me) but when you file now, doesn't the court decide what portion you can pay back and put you on a payment plan to carry at least some of your old load? The debt doesn’t just "get erased," does it? If they are put on a payment plan, then they should be paying as much as they can afford towards the debt. If they have money to save up for a boob job, then they will not have been paying their “fair share” of what the court decides they owe once all is said and done. If they can save up $1000 (minimum) a year for five years for something as frivolous as cosmetics, then they could be paying $1000 a year for five years towards their debt. Once again, “JMO.”
Oh and her dental work is completely finished and paid for, with the money her husband earned at his job. No financing there either.
Can’t comment here. I am unaware of any dental work conversations.
I am truly amazed at how cruel and hateful most of you are.
It probably sucks to be that person whose words and actions bring out the worst in others.
Jadis, you worry about her possible little girl, well I worry about yours. To grow up with a mother who is such a witch to someone she doesn't even know. Bullies breed bullies.
So it’s ok for you to be cruel and hateful now?
You are all equally guilty, and I pray you become better people for your children and future children's sake. You should really be ashamed of yourselves.
I’m a little conflicted on my thoughts about this whole thing.
I’m guilty of saying things that aren’t utterly polite about this matter. My grandmother would not be proud if she were still here.
However, I also feel a little proud that I’ve waited to form an opinion based on what I have read directly from the source and didn’t just jump in based on others’ comments.
Should I be ashamed of myself for noticing and commenting on something that someone else should be ashamed of? It sounds like one big shame fest. But, if we’re all going to share in their debt, we may as well share in their shame.
Axela- Bully or not, at least my daughter will be taught to be proud of her gender, and that as a woman there are no limits to her potential. I also find it ironic that you are accusing us of being "bullies" or rude, when you are (supposedly) a friend of the person of which we are speaking of. I have seen her in action, and she definitely isn't all sunshine and roses. So, while you're throwing a prayer our way (*gag*), throw one her way as well. Kettle to pot...
FYI- when you marry someone, THEIR debt becomes YOUR debt. It doesn't matter what he racked up before they were married- now that they ARE married, it is BOTH of their responsibility to deal with. This idea that it's only his responsibility and shouldn't/doesn't affect HER spending is just ridiculous. Yeah, I would like to spend my hard earned money on lavish items as well- but it would be irresponsible to not put that towards my own debt (student loans).
I don't care enough to get angry about it. I was just making a statement. Ha, at least it took your minds off making fun of Andrea for the millionth time this year.
BTW, if you don't type the captcha right, it leaves what you wrote and asks you to do it again. That is not the case here. I know it went thru b/c my writing was gone.
Why post about it if you don't care enought about it? Obviously you do. And why would I post some of your remarks and not others? I am offically going on the record to say that I have posted EVERY single one of your comments. Have some self control. Call me out all you want, You are wrong - AGAIN.
I can try to reiterate and hope that Drama actually posts this:
I was saying that ppl need to look at themselves before they go around judging others. Take a look in the mirror, ppl, are you really any better than anybody else?
I also mentioned that sometimes ppl get nice things for gifts and just b/c they are declaring bankruptcy doesn't mean they're not entitled to have nice things if someone else gives it to them (stroller incident).
Jadis (Amber, is it?), you can be a smartass all you want, you don't know me so I don't think you should be getting on your high horse here. What gives you the inkling that my morals are "off"????
I also mentioned that when your credit card debt is as much as a small mortgage payment, it's not easy to just dig yourself out of debt, esp considering the interest rates.
I know my previous post made more sense, this is just what I can remember of it.
You can stop your snot-nosed, 3 year old, tamper tantrum, attitude problem now.
What do I need self control for exactly? To stop from posting that I'm annoyed about something? What? Isn't that what this entire blog is, you being annoyed by something and posting it here for everyone to make fun of?
If you wanna go on the record saying you posted everything I typed, I'm going on the record to call you a liar.
Jadis, you are wrong again. When a debt is brought into a marriage, the other partner does not automatically assume it. She is a SAHM (like many women here) so she is not contributing to the income (nor did she contribute to the said debt).
Yeah. Your entire blog is a temper tantrum, so go blow it out your ass. If you don't like what I have to say, come up with some good argument against it instead of throwing low blows.
Call me a liar all you want. I posted EVERY comment you left. What reason do I have to lie? If that was true, why would I post the comment with you calling me out?? My first impression of you was right on. Just admit you're wrong and be done with it.
Um if you don't like it, dont read it! You CAN'T have it both ways. Grow up.
It's hilarious that you tell me to grow up, yet you are the one with the blog acting like a child. I already said, if you have a valid disagreement with something I said, spill it.
I don't know what your incentive to lie is, seeing as how you're anonymous and nobody knows who you are (quite hypocritical that you won't allow anonymous comments, btw). Maybe you're a pathological liar, I'm sure there are many of them out there, more than we know. I know for a fact you have not posted all my comments. Simple as that. You don't have to admit it, in fact, I don't expect you to b/c you have no respect for anyone, including yourself. Otherwise, this blog would not exist.
So are you gonna let the cat out of the bag? What was your first impression of me?
You know for a fact, yet you have no idea who I am?? Hypocrite. If you don't like it why do you keep reading?
I know for a fact that I posted them. Where else would they have gone? Your argument makes no sense, and how does that make me a hypocrite?
There was once a girl from Florida...she found a diamond in the parking lot of an Applebee’s. She couldn't afford to get her teeth fixed or her eyes checked...but she bought a brand new camera and got some fancy new jewelry from good old hubby. She bragged about jipping the Dr's office by paying only $1 per month and didn't understand how her vengeance was costing the rest of the world money (stamps aint free - even for your bank honey). Then she bitched and moaned because she was overcharged for her $3 cleaner she bought on eBay. I told her my DH would pay her to stay off eBay and she didn't like that much.
Her neighbor had a rat and her husband had to fire some illegals. She put a strip of plastic that she had peed on in some icing and served it to her family.
Now she shops for designer things, new boobs and is filing bankruptcy....how on earth are we supposed to ignore this???? It's better than Days of Our Lives!
Andrea said...
I also mentioned that sometimes ppl get nice things for gifts and just b/c they are declaring bankruptcy doesn't mean they're not entitled to have nice things if someone else gives it to them (stroller incident).
She mentioned when she was PURCHASING her $350 Maclaren stroller, so that was not a gift. Also, I'm assuming she was buying that after getting married, taking on his debt, and then racking up a little more. I'm still not convinced I need to back off on this issue.
Also, I was off by one stroller. She has 5 strollers and the one she wants to butter her DH up to get would be the 6th.
At least she did mention that she would consider selling her Maclaren in order to butter her DH up to get the new one, but we all know selling used items usually doesn't bring in a lot of money and is more trouble than it is worth. There comes a time when you need to learn to be content with what you have and just be at peace with your life the way it is.
I forgot to add that if you are airing your dirty laundry online, eventually you're going to get burned and someone is going to call shenanigans. I think that Lisa summed the situation quite nicely- it's not as though someone played cyber-stalker to collect this information.
Andrea- I found it ESPECIALLY ironic that you are telling people to lay off someone, when you have been guilty of similar behaviour in the past. So, you know that mirror you are talking about?
Even if she isn't legally obliged to be responsible for the debt that he has accrued, how much fucking sense does it make in a partnership for one person to be in debt, and the other to spend money on things that aren't a necessity? Moreover, to spend the money EARNED by the person who is in this debt?
I'll admit that I am bitchier than usual in my posts relating to this topic- but it's frustrating when you see someone mention their financial issues, but then not seem to acknowledge it in regards to their present (and future) spending.
Andrea, I don't know what to tell you. I have posted EVERY thing. You automatically blame me. Maybe YOU fucked it up. But you're too stubborn and proud to admit it, right??
As far as this blog, I took votes. If you didn't vote, don't complain.
Drama, I will admit that I'm pretty stubborn but I know to admit when I'm wrong. I'm not wrong. I don't know what to tell you b/c I know that at least 3 things in the past few weeks that I have submitted correctly have not been posted.
I'm not asking you to shut down the blog. I never said that. I'm not angry about anything, that was an assumption too. I just think you're the biggest hypocrite and liar I've ever "met" and I think that sucks. I wish there were less ppl like you (and many of the other posters here) in the world, and more ppl who are respectful and compassionate.
Andrea thats fine. If you are going to continue to bash me, I really WONT post anything of yours going forward.
When I said that I have posted every one of your comments, I was telling the truth, and may God strike me dead if I am lying.
I am not going to fight with you about this anymore. Im not as pig headed as you are. If you choose to take out your bad day on me, I'll ban you from the blog. Don't like it? Too fucking bad. Grow up and stop acting like a3 year old who is stomping your feet on the ground because you aren't getting your way.
Jadis, yes, I have done things I'm not especially proud of, my only point with the mirror thing is that there are ppl on here who love to pick on other ppl when they have some things to work on themselves. How would you like it if every time you had a problem and posted it on FF for advice, ppl talked shit about you for the decisions you made?
Drama, it has nothing to do with "not getting my way." I did not have a bad day. It just sucks that you all are bashing my friend, and I am sticking up for her. That'll put anyone on the defensive.
I don't give a fuck if you stop posting my comments, it's not like it'll be anything new. "Ban" me, I really don't give a fuck. This blog is not good for my spiritual well-being and does not help me improve myself as a person. I thought that maybe I could bring another perspective to the plate so that more ladies can understand other sides of things (seeing as how I somehow disagree with most things said here), but apparently it's more fun to just attack me than actually listen up.
I will tell you, if you ever decide to have an entire blog dedicated to picking on me, I will respond and I will expect you to post my comments. That is the exact reason I hated this blog to begin with, you talk shit and ppl don't get a chance to defend themselves. Turn it around so you're in your "victim's" shoes. It sucks not having a voice, doesn't it?
Then again, I bet you won't "ban" me b/c I somehow end up causing more, what's the word? DRAMA. And that's what you thrive on. Well, on the other hand, you might, b/c then it'll be a power trip for you and that's what it's all about, huh? Having the power to make someone feel like shit, having the power to "ban" ppl from expressing their opinions. Absolute power is corrupt, ever heard that expression?
This is just too funny. A few points I want to make:
You HATE the blog, yet you keep reading it..?
Why don't you let (the other) Andrea stand up for herself? Why is it your place? Are you her representative?
No, I will never have an entire blog picking on you. You're not mature enough to handle what people might say.
Yep, you got me with that power trip thing. Yep, thats what this blog is all about.
Honestly, I can't stop shaking my head.
Andrea-You aren't on FF anymore to know how the information is being given or in what context. Maybe it's in her presentation. I don't know about the strollers and diaper bags. I have an 8 yo stroller and $30 diaper bag, it'd be nice to have something fancier but we can't afford it.
Like I said to you last night, I'm sure she's a nice person IRL. I just don't agree with filing bankruptcy while continuing to spend frivolously.
I didn't realize that because I stayed at home, I could spend the money my DH makes -which he considers our money- and I'm not adding to the debt. That's a new twist. Does that mean the bills for my person are not his responsibility because I am not contributing to the income? Do we get to ignore my student loan payments because they are for my education before we got married and he's the only bringing home a check? I can go buy my hog and not be responsible? Sweet! When we married we took on all of each other's baggage, and if at any point we were unable to cover the bills you can bet your ass that I would be out there looking for a night job and weekend job to get us above water.
I am not judging her as a person because I don't know her, that's not my job and we all make mistakes and have hard times. I'm commenting on the situation as it's been presented and that it appears that nothing has been learned. Isn't that the beauty of making mistakes, if there is any? That you learn a lesson?
As for all of us being bullies, if none of you have ever made a snarky comment to anyone or about anyone then I'll stand up while you throw stones. I've read some of her snarkiness, so she's no innocent. And I do not believe giving your opinion about a situation is bullying, it's unfortunate for her that it's her representation of her situation that started the conversation.
I still wish her luck and health and a happy baby, even if I disagree with her choices in this matter. Just like I still enjoy your spice and opinions even though we disagree on this and a few other things.
Drama, I commented in response to your last comment to me, and it's not here. How do you explain that?
Jess, no, I'm not on FF anymore for a good reason. And that's also the reason I'm choosing to be done with this blog.
Nazism.
Andrea, I have no idea. Maybe you should ask your doctor to adjust the dosage.
Buh Bye!
Yeah...and with this ridiculousness, I think I'm done with the blog. I'll probably check in from time to time, but it's just gotten a little over done, IMO. It was a nice distraction for a while, but now not so much. Good luck and no ill will!
Andrea, I looked in the mirror today! Guess what? I have THREE diaper bags, and only one baby!!! Oh, such excess!!! And you know what? Not one of them MATCH my baby! (I understand that's a problem for some people after having seen the diaper bag thread.) Oh no! Should I go get another one so I can keep up with the Joneses?
No. I will continue using the $30 black one I got as a shower gift if I need a big one. If I don't need a big one, I will continue using the free ones we got at the hospital from Similac and Enfamil.
It's little things like this and living below our means instead of succumbing to every little whim we have that allows us to live our lives so comfortably.
I've been off work for over a month due to the unique circumstances of my career change. Since we have money in the bank and not wrapped up in some fancy-schmancy diaper bag, a garage full of strollers, or heaven forbid my BOOBS (!!!) we're still going on with our lives unaffected.
I guess I can't help but think of the fable about the Ant and the Grasshopper. http://www.civprod.com/storylady/stories/AesopFables.htm
By planning for a boob job instead of a nest egg, when they have yet to get out from under this first financial failure, they are just setting themselves up for failure if another catastrophic job loss happens (whatever!), and that is if another bankruptcy is even allowed at that time.
Unfortunately for us, we don't have the luxury of telling Grasshoppers like Andrea that we don't want to share our wheat and corn. Society must pick up the tab while they are off planning for boob jobs.
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