I rec'd a post from someone who specifically asking me not to make her post public... so... please do this and I will explain.
December 08 Due date buddy group. The name of the post is 'Nothing' by poster Nearlydone.
You know what to do. I'll take everything you can get.
ETA - I got your 2nd post. HOLY SHIT! Can I post that or is it private??
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For the record, when this comes out . . . this is our good friend LilBucky/NearlyDone deciding to discuss my dirty laundry on an open board because of a private e-mail I sent her. Because she couldn't "get to me privately", she thought she'd take this little game to FF Boards.
I never said anything hurtful about her kids or her pregnancy. And do not choose to stalk her, she was my friend IRL as well as on the boards and as a matter of fact we spent a lot of time PMing back and forth.
The laughable thing is she spoke about my multiple accounts, but she benefited from my computer knowledge because I got her back on FF by creating an account for her to.
And we all know we can create an account on FF again, if we so choose. It's not rocket science.
I believe this was posted after she phoned me a total of 45 times for 30 minutes straight after I sent my e-mail and refused to take the calls or speak to her anymore. And in order to get her last word in, she thought she'd call me out on the boards. But I could have cared less and wasn't looking until my attention was drawn there. So here I am again on Drama.
Let it be known that my only regret, after reading her half-truths in her post about me and her "victim" statements, is that I ever attacked Chef or anyone because now I know that she twisted the facts of her story to garner support and sympathy at that time too. I believe she attacked Chef regarding the losing her husband comment and then Chef decided to call her kid ugly. But only posted half the truth to her favour in that situation too.
What I don't understand is why take a private matter public. The best thing was the part you missed about her being concerned that in 9months I am going to come and cut her baby out of her stomach. Words that were taken entirely out of context from the conversation we were having a few days before that. That taken out of context was a most wonderful thing to read.
I am attaching my e-mail that I orignally sent her, after receiving a scathing one from her, which I can also put on here. I was disgusted that she would take a private issue so public and so publicly malign me and my family. She claims I attacked her family and her pregnancy. You decide for yourself.
I did miscarry on March 15th I miscarried and was pretty distraught and angry for my loss. I was having personal issues with her being insensitive and telling me things like "she's nurturing herself becaues there's a possibility she's pregnant", this was the day after I started to miscarry. And 2 days after I had my d&c she told me she was pregnant and because I wasn't responding with a ticker tape parade, I was being unfair. And things just went from bad to worse.
Take what you will from it, but the most interesting part of it is that she was in a group with CathyA and DawnSC so she could "one up" them when her time was over and admit who she was. LilBucky all along.
Anyhow, karma got me back in so many ways. One because I was such a nasty bitch on here about infertility, and ended up with a miscarriage and another was that I supported her against a situation I had no complete clue about with regard to Chef Ramsey. The only advice I can say is never ever make friends off of a website because you just never know.
Here's my e-mail. Make of it what you will. But I am only posting it because a private matter was made public and what is left after that? Do I defend myself or walk away?
My e-mail sent today, Apr 16th
Breeann, What can I say? I'm not really sure where to go from here. I guess I need to tell you the truth. I thought when this day came I would curl up in a ball and die, but now I know that's not true. Your nasty little e-mail, full of blame and finger-pointing provided me the kick in the ass I needed to stop doing this to myself. It reminded me of the gifts that life has given me and that if there is anything I am, IT IS NOT A VICTIM. I am not who you think I am. I am not living the life you think I do. I am a strong, independent, intelligent, kind-hearted, wonderful and most giving friend. I have choices in my life because I depended on ME and no one else to take care of me. I got myself an education and a career and then chose to stay home to have my kids because it was a choice I could have, not one I had to make because I had no other options. I give things of myself, not to feel good about myself, but because I truly care about the people in my life. I, and everyone else in my life who knows me, really were wondering why in all the months of our time together did I allow you to manipulate me in the way that you did. You think you know me, but you don't know the first thing about me, because you don't see people, you only see a reflection of yourself. I never shared the completeness of who I am, because we were always too busy focussing on you and your feelings. You are the true definition of narcisistic. Look it up.
Your friendships are a joke because it's never about the friendship, they are about how good you can feel about yourself in one. I only wish I could sit and have a long chat with Kerri to let her know exactly who you are but once she has moved away from you, I am quite sure she will eventually figure it out. It's too bad that she has spent so much time feeling like she's done something to you, when in truth you are doing to her exactly what you've done to me. And somehow we all end up feeling guilty and sorry for you. Now that is pathetic. I have never met someone in my entire life who is as unhappy, miserable, jealous and competitive as you are. Every single person around you needs to tiptoe with their words and cater to your feelings. I had to do that for the entire 6 weeks I was pregnant, so as not to upset you, because you weren't. You managed to take something that was wonderful for me and turn it into something dirty. Why do you think Andy said what he did? Because he was sick and tired of having you be the miserable person you are to me whenever your little "mood" strikes. Andy knew who you were right from the start and saw you coming from a mile away. You caused more problems in my home because he couldn't stand you and was so angry that I would allow myself to be subjected to your stupidity time and time again.
And now you make yourself out to be Mother Theresa, by telling me you're not holding a grudge. Good God woman, you are the epitomy of grudge holding. If you weren't holding a grudge you would have no need to bring it up and remind me that you have "feelings" you are dealing with from the last month, where I was unstable and unpredictable BECAUSE I HAD A MISCARRIAGE YOU MORON. Just because I didn't curl up in a ball on my couch like you, doesn't mean I was dealing with it wrong. I just had you to contend with and my miscarriage, a double whammy. The last month of my so called abuse came from your ignorance and selfishness. You hurt me more than anyone ever has. And then when I was ready to let go of you and changed my phone numbers and my e-mail and get on with my life, I doubted myself. BUT I will never doubt myself again. You are exactly what we see underneath that facade of yours.
You 'being" there for me was not about me, it was about you. It was about how you could pat yourself on the back and make yourself feel like a "good friend" because you were there when no one else was. Do you really believe that? Do you really believe that no one wanted to be there? Truth be told, I wouldn't let my misery and sadness be brought onto anyone else. I hold things in because I am used to taking care of myself and not relying on everyone around me to "fix" me. Unlike yourself.
Oh, my master manipulator, of course I "knew" something was wrong, but I believed you would have the maturity to speak with me about anything that was bothering you, but after knowing what you did to Kerri, I guess I was mistaken. Oh, how I would love to sit with Kerri and let her know that her issues with you are so not her. She will figure that out though. You are a master manipulator and have this wonderful way of making people feel like they've done something wrong to you and you get off scot free. How many times in your life have you ever apologized? It's never about what you've done to people, it's about what people have done to you and how you've suffered us all so bravely.
So many warned me about you. They told me who you were and that you were really messed up, and not to get involved again. But I didn't listen. I didn't listen because I thought I needed you but the truth is, you needed me more.
Oh sure, you are all happy and pregnant right now and your husband's being supportive, but that's only going to last for so long. And then what? You'll play victim to Kerri or other's you've manipulated so you can have someone to talk to again? You say you are on FF because you don't want to watch bob the builder? OMG, grow up and get a life. Learn something. Stop trying to get your feel good feelings from a board where you get to pretend you are something you truly aren't. There are so many examples to give. I hope you learn that being a mother to 4 is a huge responsibility. And there is very litle time to sit on your couch, chatting with your "pretend" friends. I hope that you take this pregnancy seriously and understand that having kids isn't about what we get from them, it's about what we give to them. It's about taking them for walks and to the park and playing with them. It's not about shuffling them off onto some video game so they don't disturb our computer time, or our phone time. Good God girl, your neck is sore? Get the fuck off the phone and spend some time with your kids.
Ahhh, fuck it, I've already given too much of my time up in this e-mail. Don't bother responding because you can't.
Oh and if you attempt to drive out here and show up at my house, Andy will personally escort you off the property. He, of all people, is the most grateful that I finally got my head out of my ass and saw you for exactly who you are, and that is pathetic.
Unstable and unpredictable? Ask your husband and your friends about how they really see you. But first, do yourself a favour, and tell them who you really are. Tell them how you are all about the taking . . . . I'm glad you accepted my gifts a plenty. I bet if I gave you one of my spa certificates and said "let's be friends" and "I'm sorry", this would all be better. I am just sorry I put my kids through a miserable time at Nicole's birthday party, just so you wouldn't be angry. Just so I wouldn't "upset" you. They didn't want to go but I made them. She didn't want them there, so why did you insist they come? Oh that's right, because it was about you again.
So, fuck off
It's been deleted and locked. Now I really want to see it, haha.
same here. Darnit!
Fire away drama. You have my blessing. I wasn't the one who chose to make our private spectacle public . . . there is more, so much more, but I'll leave it at that for now. I know she's an avid fan of this blog and just waiting to see what kind of drama is stirred up and I think she secretly hopes it's about her.
This post is funny because someone gave me a heads up last night on who nearlydone is. The timing is funny. Is she seeking revenge or did she tell more myself and the info is making it's way around?
making sure you got my "okay"? Fire away, I'm sure others will be interested. Or I'll be seen as a drama starter. Either way, I'm done with her and if this is my "up yours" then great.
DUDE.
I just got THIS:
From: nearlydone
To: cheryl_c2
Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 10:32 am
Subject: you will be surprised Quote message
Cheryl, I have grown to like your attitude. I am sorry if I ever hurt you and I am thrilled that you are pregnant. All that blog stuff wasn't me but my not so friendly friend Catherine, which we are not friends anymore, thank GOD! Anyways, I mocked you when you talked down to me, which was totally unfair and I have suffered a loss, so how dare I mock someone who did. I came back to do what I have wanted for some time, to have a baby. I finally achieved that goal, so I am taking flight.
Best of luck to you and your new addition
Lil bucky
*****HELP!! I FEEL STALKED*****
Monkeys -- When someone posts awful, awful stuff about your family on a public board, I think it's pretty normal to want to "out" them. Even though our "issue" was between LilB/NearlyDone and me, she chose to bring it to the boards by posting the crap she did. I gave Drama my permission to post the e-mail that set her off. Anyhow, she decided yesterday she was going to make me "pay" by posting what she did. And try to start a fight on the boards because I wouldn't take her calls at home. So, if this is me seeking "revenge", then so be it. But you know what? She had it coming. And if you see everything that happened here, if drama posts everything, then maybe it will give her an opportunity see that it's not just me being a bitch and that she has some real issues she needs to deal with.
Oh, Cheryl, you were one of her favourites! Again, the fingerpointing. Never once did I go near you or your miscarriage and everyone on here knows that it was me who posted the crap about infertility. And yes, she uses her loss from 3 years ago, as a tool to garner sympathy, when all the chips on FF are down and she needs someone to side with her. Of course she would "never" intentionally "hurt" someone who has experienced the same loss. Put her on ignore
Cat, while I respect you new-found awakening please do not ever mention my miscarriage again.
It is not up for public consumption.
Cat-Part of me finding it funny is that if the mods are reading my PMs since I am on the radar, they were going to think that I am sending content to Drama after, which I have not. Wouldn't it be hoot if they thought the two were connected? So, thank you for making it clear that the info came from you.
Defend away.
LB wanted me to come to drama to plead her case, I told her to do it herself. I don't know drama and it's not my mess to be involved in.
I wish you guys could have found a way to sail away into the night with out stirring up all this drama for everyone again.
I received a PM from LilBucky/nearlydone this morning apologizing for her past behavior.
She claimed she joined the BG that Cathy & I are in, under the name "nearlydone", for people who are done TTC, in an effort "to get to know me better". I call it stalking. She also said that Catherine was behind all the nasty things said/done when all this drama originally started.
Now Catherine is claiming her innocence and saying that LilBucky is the evil-doer.
Whatever...I don't trust either of them.
DawnSC -- I am asking for trust, seeking friends or claiming innocence in anything. I needed a forum on which to stand and I chose this one as I knew that LilB/nearlydone is a great fan of this site and would be eating up every word posted. It is sad and pathetic that she is attempting to portray herself as a victim from the last time.
At any rate, not really any of this matters, other than this was my "hey you ladies, karma is a bitch and it's my turn". I just wish I had the smarts back then to let sleeping dogs lie and leave her right where I found her. Stirring up crap everywhere she goes.
I'm not sure whether to be glad that the "truth" is coming out or to be cautious.
-Chef...
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